The long road ahead
Today is the Summer solstice, and it was 2 years ago today (though not in calendar days, but in lunar measurements) that Mr. VP and I got married. I am not quite sure what to say about marriage. I do love it, though it’s testing. More testing in year two than it was in year one. Everything changes ever-so-slightly when you marry. We already lived together so that didn’t change, but our relationship tilted onto a new course, like a train changing tracks, a little judder and we were on a new path to somewhere else.
The rings I wear are the same rings I’ve always worn, one engagement ring, one wedding band. Simple things, one with 3 diamonds, the other a plain white gold. But they are weighty with significance, with meaning.
Marriage is a defining point, it is hard work, it is stability, love and life. You learn something new everyday when you get married, something about your other half.
This year, for one reason and another, we haven’t really celebrated it. We’ve both been working, and with Mr. VP having a work function to go out to, we haven’t had the chance. But we exchanged cards, and I was given a lovely bouquet of freesias.
So many things have changed in the last 6 months, after years of stability, it has been a test, and we’re still awaiting the outcome of these trials. Marriage is about trust, and knowing someone enough to trust them with not only your life but your heart.
We are very much on a road. The road has twists and turns, bumps and pot-holes, and when it rounds the corner, you can’t see what’s beyond, so you slow down and take it on trust. But as long as you stay on the road, and don’t veer far from it, you know you’ll be ok.
“Beautiful, ain’t it? A typical English countryside, as done by a true and lovin’ hand. Though you
can’t see it, there’s a little country fair down that road and uh, over the hill.”
“I don’t see any road.”
“What? No road? Just wants a bit of somethin’ here, and a bit of somethin’ there. There. A
country road suitable for travel and high adventure.”
Here is to a long road, full of travel and high adventure.
Hi Tash,
Congratulations to you both on your second anniversary. Wishing you all the best for the years ahead.
Beautiful photo ~ I love the English countryside in summer.
Marie x
Comment by Wild Rose — Saturday 21 June 2008 @ 6:45 pm
Dear Tash,
Congratulations on your wedding anniversary!
Wishing you tons of happiness!
x
Comment by Isobel — Sunday 22 June 2008 @ 4:25 pm
I read your words on a new marriage, I understand them. I heard someone say one time that a man does not change at all when he marries, but a third of a woman’s life is forever changed. I assume they mean if you don’t have babies (cause that is a whole lot more than a 1/3!). We are the accommodating gender. We are the ‘eager to please’ gender. We are the more sensitive gender. You get the idea.
Good luck! I am past the first few years and it gets better. Relax and just BE.
Comment by Mary Ruth — Sunday 22 June 2008 @ 5:23 pm
Early years are truly exciting. They lay the groundwork for the big trials that eventually greet all of us. When you reach 30 (as we did this year) you will shake your head in wonder and ask yourself “how in the world did we get to 30 years?” And then you will be so glad you did. Each year, sometimes each DAY, is a great accomplishment. Best wishes for many more, Annie
Comment by annieelf — Monday 23 June 2008 @ 6:18 pm
I completely understand what you mean. There have been quite a few years like that in our 16 year marriage. I love AnnieElf’s comments – they are so true and poignant.
Comment by Karla — Wednesday 25 June 2008 @ 2:28 am